We are creatures of habit, and our brains love it. Why? Because it takes the guess work out of what we are doing. So, when we try to change and our brains have got to do a little more thinking (even if it is for the good), we can find it hard. People tend to talk about how to build new habits but I want to talk about the importance of deconstructing an old (usually bad) one.
Do you know what's so hard for me about grief? It's not just the death of that person it's what dies in you when they go. My entire world was changed forever in less than 10 words and I wasn't prepared for it - I still grieve that now.
I've come to realise, we aren't born with a fear of failure we learn it and that's a good thing. Why? Because if we can learn it, it means we can 'unlearn' it and replace it with habits and belief systems that are more productive for us. All of our experiences shape how we respond to life but that doesn't mean they determine it.
I've become fascinated with resilience ever since I lost my dad to suicide five years ago. Before then, I always admired those who'd gone through tragedies and could remain optimistic and hopeful. I'd ask myself how do they do that? It was only when I was thrown into my own life-changing event that I learned the true importance of resilience and how to build it.
Someone will always seem more successful or happier if you haven’t defined what those things look like for you. When you know what brings you joy you’re less likely to waste time seeking out things that seem to bring it to others. Goalposts will always shifts if you’re not the one setting them.
I've spent a lot of time filling my life with noise. Whether it was constantly being surrounded by people, or spending too much time on social media to feel connected. The noise felt like an escape from what was really going on - even if it was just for a brief moment.
From the day you're born you start to acquire different hats. From a son or a daughter to a brother or sister to a friend, colleague, parent, the list goes on. And that is just the tip of the iceberg. The range of hats we wear throughout our lives is unique to us. However, one…
Every Sunday morning, I'll be uploading a new blog, starting this weekend. For you to enjoy your Sunday Coffee moment, and take five with me.
There's something about the challenges of 2020 that have taken me back to the year my dad died. Although very different circumstances, I still find myself drawing parallels between the two with one common denominator, change.
I learnt that instead of yearning for what I'd lost I'd put my focus into gratitude and perspective and it not only got me through such a difficult time, it completely transformed my life.